Widower remarried to a Paisa Woman.

adrimm says on Sep 18, 2005, 14:22:

Holy Heart-attack! Phew....some relief that it was an attention-grabber headline only!

I'm glad that you've been able to spend what sounds like very enriching family-time together as well as some more time to work through your difficult loss. I don't think time ever can remove the hurt of a close loss, but time does heal the open wound leaving a scar that does't hurt quite so much.

Best wishes for you and your children,

Adri

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Caballista says on Sep 18, 2005, 14:37:

Good for you! It's the best decision for you, your children and the woman that will be in your life some day again. You need to regain confidence to love again, and I know that when you love yourself your life and your family, the right person will find you and you do not have to chase any body. Give that time to your children. Maybe that person is very close to you right now, but you do not noticed because you are looking someplace else.
Enjoy your life.

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utopiacowboy says on Sep 18, 2005, 14:37:

Those are good sentiments about keeping the memory of their mother alive. We do what we can so that my stepkids remember their father. I think you are right, Jeff, love will find YOU.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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CaryGrant says on Sep 18, 2005, 18:16:

Good attitude All the best.

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aztec says on Sep 19, 2005, 05:15:

In many ways "WidowerfromCanada "... ...my situation parallels yours. My wife died in her early 40's after a long battle with acute leukemia. One of the hardest things I ever had to do was leave the hospital to go home and tell my two teenage boys their mother would never come home. As I look back I can see the recovery period was long and traumatic.

One of the most difficult adjustments was the ongoing attention from women. Here, I was just out of a horrible experience of loosing my childhood partner and women were coming out of the wood work. I see myself as average in every measure. Yet they would just show up at the door unannounced. Even calls from out of state from strangers!

Again as I look back on the experience, while I was extremely flattered, it was and is simply a result of supply and demand. There were not many men in the area available my age with a decent job and no excess baggage.

I am sharing this with you so you may avoid some of the mistakes I made. You need time for recovery even though you feel OK you are not! Because you had a successful marriage it will be only natural you want to recapture the same thing. It is this quest that will cause you trouble and make you easy prey.

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Peter Miami says on Sep 19, 2005, 07:32:

You have a good head on your shoulder and a good plan. You have positive thinking and that is very important!

Good luck,

Peter Miami

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WidowerfromCanada says on Sep 19, 2005, 23:44:

Aztec, Adrimm,Caballista,UTC,CARY & Peter Miami AZTEC,

Thank you for sharing with me your story. I have been a widower now for 15 months.... I have not yet dated or been intimate with any other woman yet...

My children were 4 and 7 years old when there Mom died. Two weeks later my Son turned 5 and 9 days after that my daughter turned 8 years old.

Yes Goddamn I am terribly lonely for female company.... I will not settle for the first woman that comes along though.

How did you deal with sex ( making love)issue with the first woman you were with after your wife died ? I have had Men and Women tell me I should go on Vacation , Party and get laid. I am not like that and I have never been like that.... Into one night stands that is...........

I am scared that I would probably break down (cry and be upset)after sex with another woman right now... I still feel married somedays... It is a hard row to hoe sometimes....... I feel like I would be cheating on my dearly departed wife... I know I would not be but that is how I feel.... Somedays I feel like a 19 yr old boy with raging hormones..... :-)

I feel like a reborn virgin............. lmao... I am laughing at myself... That is pretty funny... Hi my name is Jeff and I am 43 years old and a virgin........... Yes I have 2 kids... lmao , roflmao......

If Elmo sees this it should be hilarious..............

Adrimm,

Sorry for the heart attack........ I was in a mischivous mood.

Caballista,

Thank you for your thoughts........

UTC,

Thanks to you......... A Paisa woman is my 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 and 11 first choices for a woman in Colombia.......

Cary Grant,

Thank You very much

Peter Miami,

Thanks ............. I am trying.

Love is like a butterfly , if you chase it you will not catch it but you can hope the butterfly of love lands on your shoulder.

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aztec says on Sep 20, 2005, 04:42:

What you are experiencing.... ...is normal. For some time you will have a feeling of disloyalty. The "first time" will be difficult. However, over a period of trial and error you will be able to function as a living human being again.

You will never get over the death of your wife. You will however, learn to live with the memory. You were a good husband and you should be proud of that. Your life as you knew it is now over. You will begin a new chapter. There is no reason why the rest of your life cannot be the best of times. If your wife was as you say, she would expect nothing less.

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WidowerfromCanada says on Sep 20, 2005, 20:04:

Aztec,

Thanks for the words. It is quite an adjustment for me... I thought last night of contacting you by PM.... But I said no , maybe somebody lurking is in my position and this can help her/him out.

Love is like a butterfly , if you chase it you will not catch it but you can hope the butterfly of love lands on your shoulder.

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elmodefoque says on Sep 21, 2005, 05:41:

Jeff, don’t sweat it, no need to jump into marriage right away, my hurt is not anywhere as severe as yours, but I been dumped and physically abused many times by broads that meant a lot to me. What do I do? I just play with myself and pay for hookers until another women walks into my life. Take your ass to Colombia and bang as many women as possible until you think you got the right one. How do you tell if a woman is really into you? Very simple! If she manhandles you and devours you with the same intensity of a hungry woman going after a 12 inch hot dog, after not eating for a week, then she’s the one. Yeah, yeah, sex is not everything, but is 99.9 % of what makes a woman happy, and that’s why I used to get dumped so many times. I was spreading myself out to thin, that’s why now that I’m older and can no longer get any action I have to be completely devoted, but if a certain person in this site with a 3 letter name that begins with “k” and ends with “t” ever gave me a chance, I’ll nail her butt real good.

I'll get there, when I get there!

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WidowerfromCanada says on Sep 21, 2005, 21:32:

LMAO Elmo I will take into consideration your words of wisdom..............

Love is like a butterfly , if you chase it you will not catch it but you can hope the butterfly of love lands on your shoulder.

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WidowerfromCanada says on Sep 21, 2005, 21:41:

UTC.......... I hope you and your family are out of harms way of this new Hurricane..

I was trying to PM you but yours is not working....... PM me your email if you like.

Jeff

Love is like a butterfly , if you chase it you will not catch it but you can hope the butterfly of love lands on your shoulder.

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utopiacowboy says on Sep 21, 2005, 21:48:

Thanks! I think by the time it gets this far inland (50 miles north and west of San Antonio), it will run out of steam. It seems headed on a due west course but the predictors keep insisting it's going to veer north. Best spot for it to land would be between Corpus and Houston - not much residential or industrial development along that part of the coast.

It seems as though everyone in Colombia has called my wife expecting that Rita is going to lay waste to the entire state.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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